Valentine’s Day Hack

We've got a great Valentine's Day hack for you. (Most especially looking at you, ladies.)  

Tell your husband what your hopes are for Valentine's Day.

What!? Why would I do that!? That takes away all the spontaneity and romance!

Possibly. Maybe. But not really.

You know what happens when you share your expectations and preferences with your husband?

You honor him. You recognize that he can't read your mind. You allow him to love you in a way that will truly make you feel loved. 

Letting your husband in on the ways he can spoil you is MUCH more romantic and enjoyable than being disappointed on Valentine’s Day. 🙃

Some husbands are really good at gift giving and planning, and for others - it’s not their cup of tea! It doesn’t mean they love you any less. They might just need a little direction. 

Speaking from experience (Kathleen here), I’m big into celebrating everything in an elaborate way. Jesse, on the other hand, is a lot more chill and laidback about these things. So I’ve learned to be open and chat a few weeks before a special occasion to let him know what I’m hoping for. He’s always happy to oblige! And relieved that I haven’t left him guessing. 

Here’s your encouragement to be open with your spouse about your Valentine’s Day expectations (and ask them about theirs!)

This goes the same for birthdays and any special occasion! Cut your spouse a break and let them in on your desires so that everyone is on the same page about how you can love each other best.

 It’s as simple as, “Hey babe, it would mean a lot to me if on Valentine’s Day you would…” 

So we’d love to know: do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your plans this year?

We're cheering you on as you continue to say YES to your marriage vows, each and every day. 

Love and prayers, 

Jesse & Kathleen